Too many actions, thoughts, adquired from our parents, or our culture make us so damage in our personal construction, that we don't even notice it. The first step to avoid this control from the bad culture in our lives is to be aware, to have the eyes well open, and then... to decide ourselves what to do. Too many stupid actions, daily or punctually, are the main obstacle to achieve what our inner life wants us to be. To develop our one unique personality in this garden of lights and shadows called life and death. To observe an idiot, a mediocre person can help us as well preventing us from stupidity. To check if what we do or think is so stupid as what we have seen in others, that's a good practice. Maybe what we only have to do is to eliminate what we don't need in our person, for example, papers or rolls in the society, which we are expected to play with, but we know they hide some bad intentioned manipulation from the patriarcal culture. Sadly, loneliness is the only scenario where we can think about what we do, what we are, how we are changing and mabe why. Alone one can speak to oneself and hearing oneself, far away from the crowds and the noise, everybody needs sometimes silence to understand oneself or simply, to enjoy doing what you want without worrying what somebody else can say. I think we could summarise it as to enjoy with oneself.