Dear Mrs T,

I’m sorry that you are in this tricky situation. It must be terrible to see how your daughter-in-law and your grandchildren are suffering. I hope that the time heals all wounds.

There are never any easy answers to personal problems! If I were you, I’d think very carefully about what is more important to you – your son or your daughter-in-law.

On the one hand, you don’t want to accept the woman who is the reason for your sons’ divorce as your second daughter-in-law, because you think it would hurt your daughter-in-law.

On the other hand, you love your son and you don’t want to distance yourself from him, if you don’t go to his wedding.

The best thing to do is to sit down with your daughter-in-law and explain her what do you feel and that you like to go the wedding of your son. Tell her that you will do it for your son and that your relationship will not change – that’s what I would do!

What’s about your grandchildren? Will they go to the wedding? In this case, it would be better if you and your husband go to the wedding and take care of the children. It wouldn’t be easy for them, too.

But sooner or later you have to accept his decision, otherwise you could lost your son.

I hope that I could help you a little bit with my point of view.

Wish you all the best!

Rebecca